You Know That Guy?

You know that guy?  That douchebag that used to tell you multiple lies, get so lost and entangled in them, he didn’t know which way was up? The one that you knew was always lying, but you couldn’t prove it, it was in your gut? And even when you did prove him wrong he would tell more lies to get out of the ones he just told? Yea, him.

He just can’t help himself, but you can. Be confident you know the truth because you do. Your intuition IS RIGHT.  You don’t have anything to prove.  You knew he had money in his account to pay child support, but he kept telling you he had to borrow money from his poor family to pay you.  He did that to make you feel bad, to make you feel guilty, to manipulate your feelings so he could get out of it.

He has issues, you don’t.  You are strong, he is weak.  He wants to get out of paying his share for your child.  And what is worse, he doesn’t even pay his full share.  He pays a lot less than his share.  You accept less because there is less of a fight, fewer guilt trips and fewer moments of unrest.

It is amazing that I feel empowered by knowing this. His lies no longer have control of me or how I live. I took control.  I got what I wanted and what I needed by choosing not to believe or even be phased by his lies.

What a wonderful feeling.  He’s that guy.  The one that cannot take responsibility, the one that plays the victim, the one that lies.

Me and my guy say, “Fuck you!”


About smommy

I am a single mom, by choice. I decided to separate from my husband and an unhappy marriage over three years ago. My son was two at the time. I am pretty much raising my kid on my own with occasional support of my family when I need it. (I don't like to admit I need it, ever!) My soon to be ex-husband (STBX) is an alcoholic and after we separated and he moved back to San Francisco, he became a drug addict also. Life is a struggle, but a sweet one since I have this awesome boy and we love each other sooooo much! Now, if I could magically be divorced, that would be great...but alas, I cannot force him to sign the documents. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, but there are moments when it seems so far away and unreachable.
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